Sooo…something has been happening to me lately, and I am genuinely confused as to whether I should be offended, or flattered, or just…nothing. Since my hair has grown out more and you can see the curl pattern more, people (usually older) have approached me, and the conversation goes something like this:
Stranger: Excuse me, I just wanted to tell you that you have really pretty hair.
S: How did you get it to curl like that? What do you use? Is that a texturizer?
E (with a puzzled look on my face): No…it’s just like that. I usually just use conditioner and maybe a gel.
S (sort of looking at me in disbelief): Oh…um…alright then. Well, bye… *walks away*
Usually I am witty in my retorts to people, but with this one…I seriously just can’t think of anything to really say because a) I’m not trying to preach about being natural to anyone, and b) I’m sure 95% of people would have no idea what I’m talking about if I told them the products I use. But my thing is…what the heck about my hair looks like a texturizer? I mean, no, I’m not rocking a picked out afro, but I wouldn’t place my hair in a category outside of the norm of what I’ve seen natural hair look like. Therefore, I just don’t know how to feel at all! Am I crazy, guys?
On one hand, I want to ask them what makes them think I have a texturizer, then explain that all afro hair is not 4b/c/z/q (no, all those hair types do not really exist, lol), and Black people can have all types of hair…but, I don’t want them to think I’m batty or a natural nazi (big ups to the jerk who tried to call me one in my Miss Jessie’s post – kick rocks). On the other hand, I sort of want to think, “Dang, they think my hair looks so good that I had to do something to it to get it like this,” BUT, I don’t even like texturizers for the most part (okay, I like Jasika Nicole’s, but her stylist must be the Goddess of Texturizers or something because her hair is puuuurdy)!!! I think that if I even attempted one I would end up looking like MJ after his hair caught on fire during the Pepsi commercial (RIP MJ!).
Anywho, does this happen to you guys as well? If so, how does it make you feel? I need some feedback, because I am all kinds of baffled! In the meantime, here’s a rather boring video of me doing my wash n go – hey, someone asked for it, lol, I told you it would be boring! Until the next time. xoxo