So I was having a conversation today about hair as I was fawning over my curly fro. I exclaimed to my boyfriend, “I’m so happy, I think my hair is going to grow into the big curly fro I wanted!” I expected a half hearted man response like, “Oh that’s great!” But instead, I was greeted with the following…”So it’s not going to drop?…Like big ass fros are cute to a point, then it’s like ok can you get that under control? I think I want it to fall; I like the ones you show me that fall.” PAUSE. TAKE DEEP BREATH. ELLE. STEP BACK GIRL! But then…he went on to cite Jurnee Smollett’s hair as an example. Uhhhhhmmmmp! Yes, Jurnee’s hair is pretty, but my hair is way too dense to end up looking like that. Sorry, boo. After I let him know that, he wasn’t disappointed per se, but did say his preference was hair that is “not too high off your head or too far in front of your face.” I mean okay, I can see that. There is nothing wrong with having a preference for neat hair…but what exactly is neat?
This apparently is an example of hair that is not neat (his opinion):
Really though? Let’s take a look. Although her hair looks a bit disheveled, it is obvious to me that a) the picture was taken at an angle and b) the wind is clearly blowing in the picture. So, it looks great to me. What do you guys think?
Okay, now this is a picture of hair that is apparently neat:
I agree, and I love her hair (even if it’s a texturizer, I don’t care, lol!). But what makes one picture so different than the other? Can you tell? Because I certainly can’t. Apparently (and I keep saying apparently because this is not my opinion) the difference is that one is more “symmetrical” than the other. Say what? While we’re on the subject of symmetry, by that definition, is Jurnee Smollett’s hair symmetrical?
Hmmm…you can clearly see that she has some varying curl patterns and lengths in her hair. So is that still neat? Apparently it is, because it has a “general direction.” Suuuure, okay.
And let me state for the record that I LOVE all THREE heads of hair. Just yummy hair porn!!! 🙂
But back to my original point – when do we go too far? When do we fall outside of the societal norm of what natural hair should look like? When does it shift from natural to “I don’t give a f**k” hair???? Ponder with me, ladies. Things that make you go, “HMMMMMMMM….”