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During my fun hair adventure, I’ve started giving a lot of my friends recommendations or have helped them with their natural hair issues. If you have a questions, or if you would like to guest blog, please leave a comment on the blog and I will get back to you shortly. Product Reviews: While I do accept products and samples, please keep in mind that all products received are for review consideration only.

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183 thoughts on “Contact

  1. Felicia says:

    Hey Elle, been reading your blog for a minute and recently after 2 years without a relaxer did my BC (well little chop for me). I read your staples list and wondered if u knew Tresemme is on sale this week at CVS for 2 for $7.

    • HB says:

      I did not!! That’s a really good price, but it violates my no buy – I can’t buy my staples unless I am legit out of them, and I have a bottle of Trez Naz in my shower right now! Happy shopping though, you should stock up!

      And welcome to the fully natural world! πŸ™‚ Two years is a long transition, so kudos to you.

  2. Mercedes says:

    Hey Elle!! I hope all is well on this holiday! So….I received my henna, indigo and hibiscus petal power last week that I ordered after watching your vid on ayurvedic powders and oils via You Tube, but I don’t know how to use it to get that lush, deep color that you rock! I looked to see if you posted a vid on the steps, but I couldn’t find one. If you already posted one, please direct me to it and if not, would you mind sending me the steps?? Pretty please?! Either way, thanks for reading the message. Mercedes

    • HB says:

      Well first…what color is your hair? My hair was pretty light when I first began using henna, and it does not lift color. The steps are pretty much the same as in my henna post – I just added a teaspoon of the hibiscus and used the same amount of henna and indigo (about 75g each).

      • Mercedes says:

        Hey!! I can send you a pic, but I have highlights right now that I think will pick up the red tones. Unfortunately, I ordered the hibiscus petal powder, indigo and kapur kachri powder (thinkens hair and adds fragrance), but NO henna. So, my question is…can I mix and apply the hibiscus petal powder as a paste without the henna?

      • HB says:

        Oh okay – yea, it would probably show up on the highlights. But no, hibiscus powder won’t work without henna – the hibiscus binds to the henna to create the color. Using hibiscus alone is a good conditioner, but it won’t deposit color.

  3. Kenisha says:

    Hey Elle,

    First let me say I absolutely love your site & channel! I am trying to find a leave-in that works well with the blue eco styler. I normally have a ten dollar or less policy with my hair products, but I am thinking of trying a curl junkie product. Since most of their products are twice my hair budget I just want to get it right. πŸ™‚ Can you tell me which CJ product gives you the least amount of interaction (white globby) when you use your eco blue gel (for wash n go).

    Thanks,

    • HB says:

      Thanks Kenisha! Surprisingly, I have not had any issues with white globs with the Blue Eco with any of my leave ins, Curl Junkie or otherwise. That’s why I love the Blue so much, Eco usually reacts with EVERYTHING for me.

  4. Jessica says:

    I did a big chop about 3 months ago because my hair had gotten really damaged from dying it and not understanding that my hair needed to be moisturized because of the dye.. But now I have like an afro. I don’t exactly wash my hair I just deep condition my hair and use hair mayo. I use everyday moisture and a shea butter leave-in conditioner by cantu to keep it from being so frizzy. I only comb my hair out when I am conditioning it. I also sleep with a satin cap on. I don’t try to many products on my hair because I’m not sure what will happen. Just need lots and lots of tips on hair products!! And styling although there is not much to do with my hair at this length..

  5. Sydney Williamson says:

    Hi Elle,

    I love your blog and I really enjoy your product reviews!! Your hair is so gorgeous!! Do you get your hair shaped or cut into a style?

    Also, I know you have lots of product reviews to do, but I’d be really curious to see what you think about Queen Helene’s Royal Curl Shaping Creme. They also have a shampoo and conditioner.

    • HB says:

      Hi Sydney, Thanks so much! Glad you find the reviews helpful. I do not get my hair cut or shaped – I’ve only trimmed my hair once since BC’ing and it was about 1/2 an inch while my hair was straight. I haven’t tried any of the new Queen Helene products – I want to try the shaping creme at least, but I’m on a no buy right now until July. It’s on my list though!

  6. Mark says:

    Hello. I felt compelled to write you after reviewing your blog site. I came across it while looking for some information on how my daughter could manage her natural hair better. I’m a 47-year old white man, who has two bi-racial children, a son (18) and a daughter (13). The debate at home is always about how she should wear her hair, that is: natural versus blow dried. She currently prefers to blow dry her hair, which straightens it.
    It’s odd, but I started to feel upset about her preference for straight hair. At first, I could not really understand my annoyance, but after some reflection I realized that I was taking her personal decision for straight hair as an affront to her own heritage, i.e., a bi-racial woman, and the struggle she represents. For me, her magnificent and beautiful curly, coily, springy hair helps announce to the world that she and others like her are the affirmation of the improbable love between a stodgy white man and a beautiful African woman. She, and her bi-racial hair, represent the struggle and great sacrifice of loving someone out of your own race. I lost family support, and now 20 years later still struggle to come to terms with the loss of my family.
    It saddens me to see women of multiracial heritage to run to the straighteners when their own, God-given hair is a such an important statement, not to mention drop dead beautiful.
    I’d appreciate your take on this issue. Thank you. Mark-

    • HB says:

      Hi there! First off, I think it’s great that you are encouraging your daughter to embrace her curls – so many parents actually prefer their daughters straighten their hair. Is she having problems with frizz, or tangles, or both? Also, how long is her hair and how tight is her curl pattern? All curly hair needs is a good leave-in conditioner, and if preferred (not needed but it can be nice :)), a styler with a bit of hold to smooth down frizz and prolong the style. Curl Junkie Argan and Olive Oil Beauticurls Daily Hair Conditioner is a great rinse out and leave-in, and aloe vera gel (Fruit of the Earth) or blue Ecostyler can both usually be purchased on the ground. Donna Marie Dream Curling Creme is also a great styler to be used alone. For methods, her hair will not be as tangled if she washes her hair in sections (by clipping the hair up) – and detangles with a wide tooth comb. No boar bristle brushes!

      However, many believe that you need to go through a mental transition first to begin to wear your hair curly and natural…most of us are so used to straight hair it’s a bit of a shock to see how voluminous curly hair can be. Just remind her that her hair is beautiful. Personally, I love ALL hair, but I do find curly hair especially unique and intriguing. Also, there are some inspiration threads on NaturallyCurly that show dozens of pictures of BEAUTIFUL hair. You could show her those as well.

  7. Odi says:

    Hi Elle,
    I love your blog and because of your great review on curl junkie products I have tried a few and have to say I looove there products. So my question, I would love to see a tutorial of how you style your hair now that it has grown out. I see through your videos that you do a lot of wash n go styles, I would like to see an update tutorial of your current styling process. I have seen your tutorial when you had shorter hair. I would really like to see your tutorial because I think we might have a similar hair texture. If you are unable to do it, do you recommended any youtuber with similar texture. Will keep watch by no means at your convenience.
    Thanks Odi.

    • HB says:

      Hi Odi, I actually did one pretty recently – back in November, in addition to the one I did when my hair was a TWA – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J_VAfio9vOI. This is exactly how I’ve been doing my hair lately, except I may do more sections to ensure my product gets on my roots. I know that my hair has also grown since then, but the technique is exactly the same (clipping my hair and doing sections). I only do an updated video if my method changes – I think it would be a bit silly to have a wash n go tutorial every six months!! Anyway, hope that helps, I’m glad you like Curl Junkie – the products are great!

  8. Cass says:

    Hi, I saw your product review on Qhemet Biologics, burdock root cream and alma and olive heavy cream. I got both of them and I was wondering if you knew the ph levels of those products?

  9. awiley3@kc.rr.com says:

    Hello, my question is about curl junkie products….I really would like to try some…but I’m on a budget and can’t afford to buy…buy… without good results. My hair is not loving glycerin in any dews….and whenever I buy a product that has coconut oil I always get spider web hair. Right now Aussie moist/Tresemme is my bestfriend…but i still haven’t found a great syler….I know you hate eco stlyer…but the one with olive oil actually has my hair looking cute (but still a little crunchy for my liking)…I’m pass the twa and I’m trying to get at least 3 day hair and with ego styler I feel like I have to wash it out… I don’t want to over moisture my hair so….I was thinking of CJ rehab and CJ curl gueen…is that to much(moisture) and if I wanted to use my aussie condt/ leave in spray could I with curl queen alone. Thanks for any feed back…ooh yeah my hair is fine/low porosity. Also could you recommend any good products for braidouts/twist without coconut oil.

    • HB says:

      You can use Curl Queen alone…Rehab + Curl Queen is too much moisture IMO. For twist outs, you can really use any leave in conditioner you like – I’ve done them with just condish and got good results.

  10. Teri Walker says:

    Hello…I love you and your hair sooo much. I am slightly new to this whole natural thing, and still trying to find products that my hair likes. My reason for contacting you today is HENNA! This is something that I really want to try, but I’m not sure because I have a permanent hair color (black) on my hair now. Would this be safe or should I wait??? You are my hair idol!!!

    • HB says:

      Hey there! You should be fine. I used henna over a permanent dye and had no issues. However, since you dyed your hair black, if you want color deposit it may not show up. Just be sure to use Body Art Quality henna.

  11. renee032@juno.com says:

    Hi Elle, I’ve been following you for a while and at one point (when your hair was shorter) afroveda products were on your HG list. I just received an email about a March 18th sale on afroveda products so my question to you is: Since your issues with afroveda had to do with the price increase would you consider repurchasing some of your favs if they were on sale? If so, which items would you pick up now that your hair is longer?

    Renee

    • HB says:

      My “disowning” of Afroveda had nothing to do with the price increase. I’ve said this multiple times – I don’t like shady business practices and liars. I buy plenty of products that cost just as much or even more than Afroveda’s. So no, I would not buy her products again, even if they were on sale.

  12. Flo says:

    hi Elle

    I recently started reading your blog, its fantastic…my hair thanks you πŸ™‚ I do not live in the USA and many of the products you review are not found in my country- international shipping is murder, so that’s out. Do you have any recommendations for stores I can visit when I’m in the USA? I plan to be in Chicago in April and want to visit some stores to stock up on some products. I saw another blogger raving about shea moisture organics from Target. Have you ever tried those? Have any reviews?

    Thanks
    Flo

    • HB says:

      I have reviewed Shea Moisture – I love the Curl and Style Milk, it’s my fave thing from the line. Everything else from the line I’m kind of eh about, but I did review it on the site. If you know when you are going to be in town, I have a trick for you – Order products online before you get to the USA, and have them delivered to wherever you are staying. Most places have priority mail, so they should be there in a couple of days. I do this a lot….lol, I need my products. Hope that helps – sorry, I don’t know of any stores in Chicago to get products at.

      • HB says:

        Stay away from glycerin! Glycerin is the death of me in high dews…My fave glycerin free stylers are Curl Junkie Curl Queen, Komaza Califia Styling Pudding, and Kinky Curly Curling Custard.

      • Anonymous says:

        Lots of the Target in the Chicago area have the Sheamoisture products. Most of the Targets on the South Side and I know there is a large Target in the South Loop that carries them. I am on the North Side and on the north side it is sporadic. Check on the Target website and you can see which stores it is available.

      • HB says:

        I don’t change products with season really, but with dew point. Ours fluctuate all year, so when the dew is too low or too high I don’t use glycerin.

  13. Che says:

    I was curious if you cowashed daily; has it caused breakage or any adverse effects? I want to keep my curl from my wash and gos, but i’m not a fan of gel.

  14. angie says:

    Hey,
    I’m Thinking about doing a BC for various reasons. I’ve been transitioning for about 5 months now and I’m going to be catching up with swimming and alot of exercising. My only problem is that I’ve never been a fan of how short hair looks on me but something inside of me is just telling me to do it.
    Any Advice ?
    Oh yea and thank you so much for all of your reviews they’ve been extremely helpful, keep it up!!

    • HB says:

      Hey there. I can’t really tell you if you should BC or not, that’s really up to you. I will say though, I also do not like short hair on myself, but when I did my BC my main rationalization was that it’s hair, it always grows back, so it wasn’t a huge deal for me. I decided the day before I did it, and I never regretted it.

      • angie says:

        lol and yea definitely BC’ing is a personal choice & thats how i feel it’s just hair & funny thing is that I’ve decided to BC πŸ™‚

      • AJ says:

        woohoo I BC’d I’ve Never Been Happier In My Life. I don’t even recall being this excited about my permed hair πŸ˜€ .. any good hair products you’d recommend under a budget? ..

      • HB says:

        Cool! I felt the same way. My fave drugstore products are Tresemme Naturals Moisturizing condish, Long Aid gel, and IC Fantasia gel. Suave Naturals and Aussie Moist are also very good. If you are near Target, the Shea Moisture line is great – my fave product from there is the Curl Moisture Milk. Hope that helps and happy hair journey!

  15. ola says:

    Hiii, thanks for answering my question about the henna awhile ago. Now i have a dilemma, you see i ordered the Giovanni leave in as my new leave in condition, but i saw ur holy grail list and all the words and praises of Oyin hair dew on youtube and i ordered the 16oz i think..lol. I want to use thIS for my moisturizer…BUT the thing is that i already have a conditioner, Tresemme Natural, also from ur list but i’m not sure if i can use the hair dew with the giovanni leave in….bcos i was thinking of returning the giovanni..WHAT TO DO!!!!!! I really think i’m becoming a junkie tooo. I just decide to buy them all, can i still use the Giovanni leave in with Oyin, or should i just stick to my regular Tresemme?

    • HB says:

      With Giovanni and Oyin as the leave-in, you only need one or the other. Personally, I don’t really like Giovanni so I’d return it in a heartbeat if I could, lol. But, I’m also a PJ so I’d alternate and use them both probably.

  16. ola says:

    hey, just wanted to say i love your hair, and congratulations on your 1 year. Also, other than henna to put in the hair, what else can i use because i noticed that the henna made your hair a little more red than i would like for my hair, i want something like brown, do u have any recommendations?..

    • HB says:

      Well, henna doesn’t usually show up that much on people’s hair, but I had dyed my hair light brown a couple of months before using henna. It was not on virgin hair. But, people say that amla can counteract the red of henna, and darkens hair over time. Other people use coffee to give their hair a brown tint as well. Hope that helps!

  17. atribitt says:

    What’s ur fotki name? I didn’t see it as one of the side links on the home page and i can’t seem to find it on here! Thanks.

  18. Jo says:

    Hello and Happy New Year. I have been mostly natural for pretty much all of my life. There was a one time experience with a Just For Me perm, but I hated it and I went back to pressing my hair. In August I decided I wanted to be all natural and embrace my curls. That has so far been the easiest thing about being natural. I have found out that I am protein sensitive, my hair does not like ANY humectants during the winter months, my scalp is VERY dry and I have a mild allergy to black castor oil. My hair tangles at the though of comb coming at it. UGH!!! Most times when I think about doing my hair I just want to cry. I could go into detail about all the products I have used in my hair but I do not want to bore you. My question is that I need a natural conditioner to cowash my hair preferably something cheap that is protein free since I am protein sensitive, and a deep conditioner that is protein, silicone, and paraben free. Right now I am using V05 conditioner for cowashing but it has protein in it and I am not very fond of the ingredients. I do not have a deep conditioner but I have been trying Afroveda Prana Geen Tea as one but it is not that great. I have also tried the Afroveda deep conditioner and it did nothing for my hair. If you can please help. Any help you can give me will be greatly appreciated. THANK YOU I hope this was not too long for you.

    • HB says:

      I think that VO5 and Suave Naturals are protein free – those are the cheapest ones I use. Tresemme Naturals and Trader Joe’s both have protein, but you may want to try them out anyway. I’m protein sensitive as well and loooove them. For deep conditioners, try Curl Junkie Curl Rehab. It’s the best commercial DC I have tried.

  19. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for the information! I have been using Giovanni Smooth as Silk. I have been wanting to get the Leave-In as well b/c Ihave read great things about it. Do you have suggestions or leave-ins that are ultra moisturizing?

    • HB says:

      My favorite leave-ins….right now, definitely Oyin Hair Dew (16oz for $19), Qhemet Burdock Root Buttercream (8oz for $16), Curl Junkie Beauticurls Leave-In (8oz for $18), and Donna Marie Cocoa Hemp Buttermilk (8oz for $12). Hope that helps!

  20. Anonymous says:

    Thanks! That is good to know. I had read about not using things with too much protein, but didn’t know which ingredients that related to. I have been using the Giovanni Smooth As Silk conditioner and have been meaning to buy the Leave-In b/c I read great things about it. Are there any budget friendly (ie. will buy Curls products, but some others are just too expensive) leave-ins that you recommend that are ultra moisturizing?

  21. Therese says:

    I hope I’m doing this right. I just came across this blog today and would like some opinions. I am white and have 2 daughters that are 1/2 AA. Younger one doesn’t have much hair yet, but I would like some opinions on what I am doing so far with my older daughter’s hair, she’s 3. She has (I think) 3c/4a hair that comes past her shoulders when wet. She has only had her hair trimmed once. I starting co-washing with Suave Coconut Conditioner. I haven’t washed her hair with a shampoo in a couple of weeks, but when I do (during the winter I think I will wash with shampoo twice a month and co-wash about 3-4 times in between) but when I do I use either Curls Cleansing Cream of the Curls baby shampoo. After I shampoo of co-wash I use the Curls Coconut Dream Conditioner and I leave it in. Then I do about 2 or 4 braids. Every morning I spray with a water/Giovanni conditioner/coconut oil/jojoba oil mix and then put in either more Curls conditioner or the Curls Milkshake before combing. Her hair always looks good, but by the afternoon is dry looking again. I rarely leave her hair down b/c she naps and then it is flat at the back of her head. It is usually parted down the middle and then in either 2 poufs or 2 braids. I have a big jar of EVCO and tons of Shea Butter. Is there anything else I can/should be doing to help keep her hair well conditioned. I rarely ever deep condition b/c it is hard to get a 3 yr. old to keep something on her head of not lay down with conditioner in her hair.

    • HB says:

      Wow! First off, let me give kudos to you **clapping** for learning how to care for your daughter’s hair!! That’s so awesome!

      Okay now…what Giovanni condish are you using? Personally, some of their formulas have too much protein for my hair and can make it dry. Also, the Curls Milkshake has protein as well. From what you are saying, it seems like you should buy her more moisturizing products and go lighter on the protein in order to ensure there is a good balance. Natural hair often does not need as much protein as chemically processed hair because it hasn’t been weathered or broken down.

      For instance, there are some protein-based conditioners that I LOVE, but I can only use them every couple of weeks or so to make my hair soft and give a protein boost – if I use them multiple times in a row, my hair starts to get hard and icky. When you see ingredients like – soy protein, hydrolyzed wheat/soy/oat, keratin, amino acids, and collagen – those are all protein ingredients in your product. Aloe vera also contains protein, and some people are sensitive to this.

      I hope that helps, and please let me know if you have additional questions!

  22. Lea says:

    Hi Elle,

    Which moisturizing/hold products do you recommend for a coil out?

    I’m still rockin my TWA and I was using MJ but I want to opt for something with better ingredients. Hold and moisture is essential to me. My moisturizers don’t have enough hold and I dont want to use the IC gel all the time. Coil outs are my protective style so I start with coils on Monday and seperate them through out the week while adding a cream moisturizer daily. The hold from the MJ products really keeps it looking frizzless and neat all week and the hold was good enough that adding moisturizers daily didnt disturb the curl to create frizz.

    Please let me know your suggestions!

  23. awiley3@kc.rr.com says:

    Elle, you are the bomb dot com!!! LOL on your replies. I am still frustrated but I have calmed down…and the light bulb has gone off that it will take a while to find out what works on my curls..I did run to whole foods and got some castor oil & joboa oil…I have your list of good LE/Stylers so I’ll just have to mix…..things up till I get it right..I only ordered the sample size of Bee Mine in case I don’t like it (for the winter). Thanks for all your help…and keep up the killer vids..your curls are an inspiration to me and I’ll keep them in mind when I want to chop mine off. LOL And to all the you tube sista with their vid reviews….you ladies are brave/bold/beautiful!!!!! I have never been on my computer so much….ya’ll are truly hair life savers… so from KC …..Peace and Love…and good looking out!!!!!!

  24. awiley3@kc.rr.com says:

    Hey, Elle Thanks for the quick reply!!! I will try to make this short. I do use satin bonnet/pillowcase. I did strand test(good looking out on that!!!) and my hair is low porosity. So….I think it has too much protein from a combo of eco styler/Sheamoisture curl styling milk. I have a tapered TWA style so not long enough for protective styles..plus I like the big curls look….up until 2 months ago I was using Sheamoisture curl enhancing smoothie…then my hair just didn’t like it anymore…it just looked like big shiny frizz ball so that’s when I switched to their curl milk…not better. I just ordered the Bee mine hold curly butter Friday…but today is Sunday….and my hair is looking a hot mess!!!! I’m not a cryer but I’m totally frustrated…my curls have never looked this way…but then again I have never tried to do it natural…I’m on my way out the door…but don’t know what to buy?…I ordered the Bee Mine cause I love the way your hair looked on that vid…and you can but it on dry hair(I’m simple…get up and go)…but think back..if you had to go to drug store right now what would you do? I’m going to get Tresmme (today) and I have to Shea Moisture restorative LE/ but I don’t have a styling product cause I should probably stay away from eco gel…should I even be using SMLE? Help!!!

    • HB says:

      Honestly, I don’t like the stylers at the drugstore. The only thing I’ve ever bought is Eco Styler (which I don’t like) and Long Aid (which I like, but after a few uses it dries my curls out and right now I can’t use it because it has too much glycerin). I’ve left in drugstore conditioner, but I didn’t like any of the drugstore stylers I’ve tried, so I can’t recommend them. I also don’t recommend the Bee Mine Curly Butter in my current climate (dews around 30); I tested it out in lower dews and it dried my hair out. I also didn’t really like the Shea Moisture Restorative Conditioner…it was okay…but there was something in it that made my hair funky. The only styler I like from the drugstore is aloe vera gel, but it can’t have alcohol in it…and some of them do. I can’t even get the kind I like at my drugstore…

  25. awiley3@kc.rr.com says:

    Hi, Elle I’m new to the blog and all the you tube hair product reviews…but I luv all your vids/Izzy!!! I need major help with FRIZZ!!!. Some bckgrod on me..43yr (had bc before called bc) always relaxed short/long/curly so much has change my texture over the years. Cut out all relaxer in May/10…hair curly/fine/low porosity…live in kc(no TJ/but do have whole foods)…yes have slept on satin pillowcase for 20yrs…just now getting away from shampoo…(told u I’m late). LOL Things have tried and don’t like Carol’s D,Mixed chicks/eco styler-hair to hard. was using Target Sheamoisture line until recently hair isn’t feeling it anymore…This is my first time letting hair grow out in curly condition….Luv Giovanni and just ordered Bee Mine(waiting on arrival)..luv kiss my face gel..I have gotten major shrinkage all my life/dry scalp also( in winter)…and I don’t want to do TWA…don’t have time to get up and wash hair every morning…single parent on a serious budget …I’m going to try Tresmme for co-wash….tea tree for scalp…don’t like gel to use every day….I’m very low maintance…like to get up and go…this is so much harder since hair is longer. I think I just need more direction on good leave in cond/moisturizer…I’m not a product junkie/don’t want to be one/happy to live that dream thru u.LOL I just want defined moisturized curls that are soft(don’t mind a little hold)….I really want to embrace natural…but must admit getting a little discouraged. Please help…not sure if doing raking/smoothing right…have never even heard of that…..till started watching all the sistas on you tube. Also I don’t think my hair likes coconut oil…on fresh clean hair/wake up to POOF!!!!! HELP!!!!

    • HB says:

      How are you sleeping on your hair at night? Are you leaving it loose, putting it in braids, a ponytail, etc? I have found that pineappling at night helps preserve my curls – I have a vid on it. My fave LI on the ground is the SheaMoisture Coconut Curl & Style Milk, but you said you don’t like it? Are you willing to order something? You get frizz because your hair is either dry or over moisturized. If you don’t like gels, you can use a curl creme alone so you don’t have to worry about a leave-in. Since it’s winter and dry, I don’t recommend using a glycerin filled creme right now, just because they often also don’t have much water. Ohm Sweet Hair Pudding and Komaza Califia Pudding are my fave curl cremes without glycerin. Also, make sure you are deep conditioning weekly and doing protein treatments as needed, depending on the texture/porosity of your hair.

      Also, are you wearing your hair out everyday? If your routine is low maintenance, it might be better to do more protective styles or bun daily – wearing your hair out while ensuring it stays healthy takes a bit of work for super curly hair due to shrinkage, constant moisture, and detangling.

      I hope that helps some!

  26. BB says:

    In one of your videos you said you were phasing out henna from your regiment and would use the hair masque from Butters N Bars and I was wondering why you were no longer using henna because I wanted to try either or as a deep conditioning and just wanted to know your thoughts on henna

    Thanks

    • HB says:

      I love henna – I think it’s great. However, I don’t want to have red hair anymore, and I want to grow out the henna color and possibly get highlights when my hair is longer, and I don’t want to dye over henna’ed hair. That’s all. It’s a great conditioner, and if you have dark hair the color will only be a slight tint.

  27. atribitt says:

    i live n the midwest (kc) with no trader joes. can u recommend another pocket friendly convenience storish leave in? also i always have white spots after applying product and i end up w a frizzy mess after rubbing all the spots out. whats the trick to a clumpl free wng? can u do a vid of how u apply ur product layers right after cowashing?

    • HB says:

      Also, you should not be getting white spots after applying product – this means your products aren’t playing well together, or you have build up. Are you clarifying?

      • atribitt says:

        sorry I meant, can u recommend leave in conditioners not cowash conditioners, thanks. yes I have clarified. maybe I’m not doing a good job at distributing it well. After giovanni cowash and kckt leave in I layer a oil and av juice mix then a gel. also, when u dc do u use a hood dryer or just long periods of time or overnight?

      • HB says:

        When I use KT, I layer with jojoba oil, then apply KCCC. My favorite LI conditioners are – Shea Moisture Shea Butter Leave-In (Original Formula), Oyin Honey Hemp Conditioner, Curl Junkie Curl Rehab (Strawberry Ice Cream scent), Donna Marie Cocoa Hemp Buttermilk, and Curl Junkie Smoothing Lotion or Curl Junkie Beauticurls LI. When I DC I do not use a hood dryer, and usually leave it in for an hour or two.

        What gel are you using? It might be reacting with your other products. I find that Ecostyler and Long Aid can both turn hair white, and even AV gel sometimes.

      • atribitt says:

        Oh elle, focus focus! A pocket friendly convenience storish leave in! Lol. I’ve tried ecostyler olive oil and kccc. Ecostyler seems strong enough to define my curls where kccc is too light. But w ecostyler I have helmet head (hard as a rock), not sexy. I was thinking of switching to a pocket friendly convenience storish curl creme if one exists. BTW, my hubby is totally confused as to how I went “natural” but my sink is covered in more “chemicals” than when I was relaxed!

      • HB says:

        LOL oh yea…none of those except the Shea Moisture are in most stores, and SM is usually on the East Coast anyway. Hmmm…the only LI I like from the store is the Shea Moisture Milk from Target…do you guys have Shea Moisture at your Targets at least? Most drugstore LIs have cones, so I don’t use them. If I were in a pinch, I’d prob use one of the condishes I listed and add honey and an oil to it, and leave that in.

        I don’t really like Eco Styler – it made my hair white a lot and hard/dry because of all the wheat protein. No bueno.

      • Anonymous says:

        Yes we have the SM products at ONE Target in our area, luckily it’s the Target I go to. And I watched your review on it, so great! Thanks.

        Good news though, so I watched your WNG tutorial, plus I read a couple of your posts I hadn’t read, and I am having a great hair day….

        First of all, I was applying products to soaking, dripping wet hair, and you said to use a t-shirt to dry just a little. I think by doing that I allowed my hair to be receptive to product, instead of drowning in water. Secondly, I was definitely applying too much product. I mean, for all the hair you have, you weren’t applying that much in your tutorial compared to the googobs of product I was applying to my little 1.5in TWA (I think I was getting white spots because my hair would absorb the product that it needed, but then there was sooo much leftover that it just sat on top). So I severely reduced the amount of product. Lastly, you suggested in one of your posts to let each product sit in your hair for a short time to give it time to absorb. So I did that too. And voila! No white spots, curls defined, and my hair is taking a much shorter time to dry. Thanks for all your help and tips.

        Also, after reading another blog, you said that your hair has pretty much been the same since you BC’d, and that you hadn’t used heat in months. Well right before I BC’d I had to straighten my hair like 3 weeks in a row for modeling gigs. I think that is why I am suffering from the frizzies. Hopefully DCing very often will help my hair feel better and also give the new growth a fighting chance to be healthy. I’m going to try the EVOO and honey DC.

        Okay, that’s enough blabbing. Thanks again, Elle. YOU ROCK!

  28. Lori says:

    Elle, interview help please! My first interview as a natural is tomorrow and I’m worried. I want to wear my usual WNG, but I’m worried about it being “too much”. I don’t do twists. I may be able to pin up the front and sides and leave the back out, however, my main issue is to make sure the interviewer sees me as I am most of the time. I feel it would be disingenuous to do a roller set and wear my hair relatively straight…then if I am hired show up later with my afro, kwim?

    You work in the corporate world…what do you suggest? What has the feedback been to your hair at work? Were you natural from the beginning or did you transition to natural after you were already hired?

    Thanks much for any advice. You were the first person I thought of. :~}

    • HB says:

      Every office is different, and personally, my office has no issue with my hair whatsoever, and I always wear it like you guys see it all the time. When I started my job, I had relaxed, shoulder length hair. I’ve had all sorts of hairstyles at work, including my mohawk, lol! However, an interview is different – if you feel better wearing a rollerset, do it, then rock your fro later. I definitely don’t think it’s disingenuous. Do what makes you feel comfortable, so you can ace your interview and not have to worry about what they are thinking of your hair the entire time. I hope that helps some, and good luck at your interview!

      • Lori says:

        Hi Elle. I just wanted to update you that my interview went really well. I’m excited and keeping my fingers crossed. I walked in and was surprised…the director is a fellow natural! LOL Can you believe it? I did a twist set last night with Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie and sat under the dryer. I hoped for the best today and it came out really well. My first ever decent twistout. Anyway, it is raining and windy here in the south this morning and I just knew my hair was going to revert once I got out in it, but it didn’t. The director has a short, well cut, well maintained ‘fro. I was in heaven. I wanted to ask about her hair, but I figured it wasn’t appropriate. However, if I get the job, I hope that’s something we can discuss and share about.

        Thanks for the advice. I felt very good about my twistout and was confident!

  29. Jennifer says:

    Hello,

    I have had natural hair for over a year now and have been struggling steadily to find the right products to use. I am totally open to using raw and pure ingredients, but I don’t know where to start. I have actually been using Miss Jessie’s products, spending lots of money, and now I have a super itchy scalp. I think I may be allergic to the products, but I’m not sure what else to try. Please help. I have a really tight curl and my hair is shoulder length when straightened. Any info you could provide would be greatly appreciate. Thank you.

    • HB says:

      Hi Jennifer,

      I do not recommend Miss Jessie’s products, as they contain mineral oil, which for me, is VERY drying, and can clog pores on your scalp and result in in itchies, like you described. Check out my new HG list at http://wp.me/pA5f1-gm for ideas on what to use! And please, let me know if you have questions!

  30. PWat says:

    Thank you so much for your suggestions and quick replies. I will give the w-n-g another try! I’ve been eyeing the Donna Marie for a while, but am trying not to buy everything that crosses my path. πŸ™‚

  31. PWat says:

    I have enjoyed reading your blog. I am a new loose natural (1 year); loc’d for 10 years before combing them out. This is the first time I’ve had to deal with hair since the 90’s and I have yet to achieve a decent wash n go. I think a lot has to do with no shape. I have over 8 inches of hair that shrinks to 75% of its length.

    Where do you get your hair cut/colored? Your shape is fantastic.

    • HB says:

      Thanks so much, and I’m glad you like reading the blog. You’ve been natural longer than me! I actually do not get my hair cut, and I did the color myself – I did a post on it about a week ago. I haven’t trimmed or cut my hair since I BC’ed last December. What products are you using for your wash n gos?

      • PWat says:

        Yes. I have definitely been natural for a long time. Before I loc’d in 1999, I was in braids and gradually cut my perm out. I had NO idea this was “transitioning” and only knew I needed to get the perm out.

        For my wash n gos, I have tried every combo under the sun!
        1. KCKT + KCCC. I didn’t like the “heavy” feeling of the KCCC.

        2. KCKT + ecostyler was moderately successful, but, again, hated the heaviness.

        For my twistouts/braidouts, I use OYIN products (honey hemp condish for my leave in and whipped pudding with a touch of burnt sugar when all finished). In the summer, I add a lot of aloe vera gel to the whipped pudding. I co-wash with either Trader Joe’s Norish Spa or Tea Tree.

        I am in Maryland, and have been thinking of going to someone to get a “proper” haircut in the spring. I’ve heard good things about Fiddleheads. I am also going to venture into henna this winter.

      • HB says:

        Hmmm…you may like a curling creme better than a gel if you don’t like the heavy feeling. Some good curl cremes are: Bee Mine Bee Hold Curly Butter, Donna Marie Dream Curl Creme (however, I have been seeing some ladies get their product and it’s not mixed well), Komaza Califia Styling Pudding, and Curl Junkie Coffee Coco Curl Creme.

        And I love Oyin! The Honey Hemp is so yummy, and I use the Whipped Pudding for night moisture and as a body creme.

  32. Mag says:

    I’m new to following your quest for the perfect curl…I watched a few of your vids on yt and I realized that your hair is similar to mine except mine is a little finer/thinner than yours. I will be watching and following your journey and good luck finding the perfect curl because if you achieve it, maybe I can as well.

    Thanks for all of the great info.

  33. Kenya Johnson says:

    I just found your blog and can’t wait to try some of the suggested products. If I didn’t have to work, I’d be here all day. : ) My quest for a moisturizer that lasts continues. Thanks for sharing the info.

  34. Lisa says:

    Hello there! I am newly natural and I did the big chop and now I’m wanting to grow my curls out. Right now they are short but I want to find products that are moisturizing to my hair, but are not greasy and I’m,also, looking for a gel or jelly product that is not hard on my hair but defines my curls. You kept mentioning a jelly product that you loved in your videos. What is it called again and where can I purchase it?

  35. Tiffany says:

    Hi,

    Your hair is beautiful! I live in NYC, and I was seriously considering Miss Jessie’s salon until I came across your review. Thank you so much!! I can’t believe I was considering paying that much when all I want are my roots done every couple of months.

    I have 3c/4a hair I think (see my pic on twitter @see_tiff_tweet) and keep my hair blonde. I just got it retouched, so I won’t need color again for a few months. I see you are in CA. Do you have any connects here in NYC? somewhere that I can go just to get my hair colored? I don’t mind paying and don’t vary from blonde much (maybe a little darker in winter, I went red last year but it was harder to keep up than blonde!) so it will really be more for touchups.

    Thanks for any salon/colorist connects you or your readers may have,

    Many Thanks

    Tiff

    • HB says:

      Hey, and thanks! I don’t have any personal contacts in NYC, but there are plenty of women in the New York area on the hair boards I frequent…Naturally Curly and Long Haircare Forum. You may be able to go to the sites and do a search for a NYC stylist; people often ask these types of questions. I hope that helps some!

  36. Angie says:

    You are so inspiring. I have been transitioning for about 6 months now. After reading some of your entries, I don’t think I have the same hair type as you but you still seem like you might be able to help me. I too am on a budget with having two small kids. I think my hair has high porosity and it is EXTREMELY dry. It has gotten a little better since I began transitioning and using more natural products (used to have flakes the next day after washing). Now it takes about 3 days before it gets dry and it itches so bad. I know that I need to find a daily moisturizer but I am not too sure what to go for. I am willing to try different products but at least having an idea of what to avoid based on my hair type would help. I haven’t done the BC and don’t really plan to but I do have a considerable amount of new growth mainly in the middle of my hair. Any help you can offer is great. I live in the Baltimore/DC Metro area.

    • HB says:

      Hi there, welcome to the blog, and thanks for the compliment! πŸ™‚ A few pointers sice you live in the DMV (I used to live there):
      – Be careful with glycerin. In summer, the dew point are super high, and in winter, they’re low. Disaster for glycerin use both ways.
      – If you have high porosity hair, be sure to seal in moisture as that kind of hair tends to lose moisture quickly. In the same sense, sealing keeps additional moisture out so your hair doesn’t poof out.
      – Deep condition your hair at least twice a week – a simple treatment of honey and extra virgin olive oil will be great, and you can get these ingredients from the grocery store.
      – Tea tree oil helps with itchy scalp, and a good conditioner that contains it is the Tea Tree Tingle Condish from Trader Joe’s. If you use gel, there is also a pink Ecostyler that has teat tree oil.
      I think that’s all I got for now…let me know if you have more questions!!

  37. Ariel Hope says:

    You are the bomb! lol I bought the tresemme naturals along with the TJ tea tree tingle my hair feels so much better. My hair is no longer ashy haha. How long did it take for your curls to really pop and define themselves?

    • HB says:

      Oooh, I’m glad you liked it! When I BC’ed I had about an inch of hair, but my hair has pretty much looked the same the whole time. However, I also stopped straightening my hair for MONTHS before I BC’ed, and I had a mohawk so my sides and back were already natural.

  38. Ariel Hope says:

    Thank you! I will be giving that TT away to one of my friends with permed hair. Oh okay I never knew that about the hair texture and types. My hair is very coarse and thick. I guess its highly porous bc my hair is totally dry right now lol. Have you ever tried the aubrey organics honeysuckle rose conditioner? I will def be trying that tresemme, traders joe and aloe vera gel.

    • HB says:

      A good way to test porosity is to put a strand of hair in a bowl of water – if it sinks you have high porosity; if it sinks only a little (like kind of stays under the water but then just sits there) you have normal porosity; and if it stays at the top (like mine does!), you have low porosity.

      I have tried AOHR conditioner and I like it alot – I just like Tresemme for cowashing b/c I cowash everyday and use up conditioner quickly and the HR is too expensive for all that.

  39. Ariel Hope says:

    With the honey I just mixed it with the TT and put a shower cap on my head for like 30 mins and then I rinse it out. I don’t use shampoo bc im trying to do the CG method. I co wash everyday bc my hair is EXTREMELY dry in the morning its ridiculous. I use the TT as a leave-in along with the olive oil under my gel. Um I live in NC so its pretty humid around here. I just washed my hair and on my left side its looks kind of like a 3c texture and then on the right side its more of a 4a and in the middle idk what that is lol. The back is a mixture of 4a and 3c i believe. At night i sleep in a satin bonnet on top of a cotton pillowcase. For styling I just move my hands in a circular motion to try to get my curls to pop.

    Thank you

    • HB says:

      Ooooooh, I thought you meant you were using TT gel, not the conditioner! If you are trying to do CG – TT has cones in it, so I wouldn’t use that. Furthermore, the cones in that conditioner (Cyclopentasiloxane and Dimethicone) build up in your hair and require a clarifying shampoo to remove (usually a sulfate shampoo). Cones can also dry out your hair because they do not give any real moisture to your hair. It just “feels” silky when wet, then dries out. I personally can’t stand the HE conditioners b/c they made my hair SO dry and frizzy. What kind of gel are you using?

      Oils do not provide moisture to your hair either, they simply help seal in moisture, so if your hair is not moisturized after your conditioner, then there is nothing to keep it from getting dry again. Also, 3c/4a is not a texture – it refers to hair type, which is the curl pattern of your hair. Textures can be fine, medium or coarse. The reason I ask is because fine hair needs more protein, while coarse hair (like mine) can become dry and brittle with protein use. I try to use products that do not contain much protein. As for porosity, highly porous hair has trouble holding onto to moisture and often gets dry overnight.

  40. Ariel Hope says:

    I need help 😦
    I did my BC on July 14, 2010 and I’m experiencing a lot of frizz. I’m a 3c/4a texture i believe but im having a hard time defining my curls bc of the frizz. Right now im using herbal essences totally twisted, honey, and olive oil on my hair.
    Ooh yeah and im a college student so I’m kind of on a budget lol

    • HB says:

      How are you using the honey and olive oil, as a deep treatment? Are you using a leave-in under your gel? I have used TT in the past and absolutely hate it, all it is is water, thickeners, preservatives and a cone…it was extremely drying on my hair. Are you shampooing your hair? How often are you conditioning and/or washing? Are you sleeping on a cotton pillowcase? What climate do you live in? What is your hair texture/porosity? How are you styling your hair – raking, smoothing, etc?

      If you are on a budget, I suggest the following (I also have a post on my drugstore holy grails): Cowash: Tresemme Naturals Moisturizing Conditioner, Leave-In: Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle (if you have a TJ’s in your area), Oil: EVOO, Styler: Long Aid Styling Gel or Aloe Vera Gel.

      hth!

  41. TMS says:

    Hello! I’m new to the blog world and wanted to know how do I sign up for your blog?

    Thanks for blogging great info.

    Have a great weekend,
    TMS

  42. Dominique A says:

    Hey Lady! What are the odds?? I go online and google “Bantu Knot Out” and I see a picture of your face. I see you’re doing well on your hair journey. Your blog is rather entertaining and your hair is beautiful. Hope all is well and your hair stays looking Fabulous. Take care girl.

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